There has been a huge amount of discussion recently regarding the subject of “gay marriage”, so I thought I would throw my view into the forum. I personally don’t understand why there is a discussion at all, and much less why this discussion is being made by the people it will affect the least, but I will join it anyway.
I, for one, have no urgent desire to get married. You may think this is odd from someone who is clearly in favour of marriage and equalising gay marriage, but I have been put off the idea by my experience of unsuccessful heterosexual marriages in my family. I don’t feel confident in the institution, especially once sanctified by God, as they just don’t seem to last. My father is on his 5th marriage, and my mother, brother and sister have also been at the end of divorce proceedings, which somehow takes the shine from the happy matrimony they were promised.
Heterosexual marriage, or just “marriage” as it is called, has an increasingly high separation and divorce rate, so I can’t see why people would be so keen to keep it strictly for the heterosexuals. I mean, more successful relationships and happy marriages could hardly sully their good name could it?
I have been to a number of weddings (no I didn’t burn upon entering a sacred building), and also to a couple of civil partnerships (the gay marriage “equivalent” we settle for in the UK). They are completely different entities. Weddings are full of pride and ceremony, the civil partnerships were shameful and inadequate by comparison, and I feel this is unfair.
I don’t dictate how other people make choices or how they can co-exist, although it would be very easy to do, but I don’t see how anyone can justify denying a basic human requirement of committing to share your life with someone because of one extremist chapter of an incredibly outdated piece of fiction? If I chose to live my life by Act I of Shakespeare’s Macbeth (a far more recent literary tome), I would be off looking for witches and planning high treason if my wife told me to. Do you see how ridiculous this would be?
I am not slating religion as a whole, it serves a purpose and gives people faith. I just don’t understand why it has to get involved in something that clearly doesn’t concern it. The gays have lasted this long being spurned by God and his followers, I think we can last another few centuries.
in Germany they have a “Partnership for Life” for gay couples, and that’s both a lovely name for it, and a great concept. They tried to bring it in to common use for straight couples too, but that didn’t seem to be to popular with the religious crowds.
I think ultimately that this is what’s needed, a new term used for the union of heterosexuals, homosexuals, the transgendered and any other sexual or religious group. Throw away the marriage term, if it has too much religious baggage with it (keep wedding if you want to as a short-hand), but call it something else legally. As long as we all get equal rights, I’d happily share my life union in a “pumpkin carving” ceremony, if I have to.